Do most narcissists have good intentions as long as you are under their control?

that is why they cheat, lie, steal, have porn addictions, substance abuse all under your nose(and then some).

i really dont want to give these folks the attention they dont deserve , ild rather give my attention to the survivors. I think their is a huge failure in our society where we worship the kardashians but neglect those that cant even scrape up the money to get therapy for chronic abuse

I can swear on a stack of bibles (yes, i once hired a private investigator) that if you get into their phones, their ipads, social networking/ profiles and dating sites, emails whatever …. you will uncover the pwnpd has a few hidden things they do not want you finding.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

they build up a mirrored version often to suck you in but down the road the mask gets a crack and the house of card falls and you are left picking up the mess.

you are mostly blissful sailing along quite unaware of their hidden actions and behaviours. They will be doing little gas lighting spells, omissions or blame shifting if you start to smell something is off. We all have times when we saw a white lie or a red flag go fluttering by , it may not even register, it may just be a quick blip.

under the hood lies a broken angry , bored , toxic person that will throw you and your relationship right under the bus.

What is your best forbidden sex story that felt so right?

now to them they delusionally believe they are giving you steak but in time youll see its just a cold stale old hot dog. Its a nothing burger scam.

Oh hell to the no

the truth is when you are under their control that is when the cluster b bullshittery hits the fan! While you are feeling safe, secure, loyal, content, like you met the one. Very soon a true cluster b is going to become bored with you.

Is it possible for people who claim to be genuine and honest to actually not be? If so, why do they behave this way?

good intentions are paved to hell so the saying goes. They are in control or otherwise they woukdnt bother with you.

absolutely not

according to dr ramani 1/6 are pwnpd. That is a pretty staggering thought. Imagine that number in the gay community where the cohort is around ten percent. Thats just heart breaking to know you are going to encounter one of these folks and its up to us to educate , teach prevention and awareness hoping we can bring enough light to this topic.

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they do start off with smoke n mirrors , good intentions and allegedly ‘honesty’ but that is just grooming, love bombing, smoke n mirrors, false presentations. They do want love , they do have dreams, however

they roped you in , secured you, and then the devaluation death spiral. You either leave because it got too bad, you got ghosted or discarded. And yes you most certainly can be discarded even in a marriage they are just too cowardly to leave or be honest.

do not look for a silver lining because the only silver lining is you got your ass handed to you and your learning the truth our parents told us monsters live in the dark under the bed no they actually were invited into our beds. Our homes, our churches, our employment, celebrityhood our politics.

Why are girls supposed to have a stereotypical "hourglass" body shape, and why if you dont have an "hourglass" body shape you get treated differently? It doesnt make any sense to me.